Attaching to Allah in Ramadan

Categories: Ramadan

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By Shuhani Shohid

Some of my early Ramadan experiences and memories consist of my mum praying in the dark for long hours through the night; her making heartfelt teary dua’s before she breaks her fast. I have memories of getting ready for tarawih and going to the masjid with my brother to pray. I have memories of going out for a little dessert treat with my friends after one of the Tarawih prayers. I remember those days where I would be sitting on my prayer mat after Fajr reciting Qur’an until the sunrises. These memories have a cornerstone in my heart when I hear the word Ramadan.

However, after becoming a mother there were many things that I could not participate in, and I wondered how on earth I could once again experience that “feeling”. How could I get that Ramadan experience I was used to when I was not able to attend the Tarawih prayers, I was not able to listen to the beautiful recitation of the Imam in the masjid leading the night prayers…

I was feeling unsettled, anxious and did not know how to make the most of my Ramadan. One day, whilst I was reciting and reflecting over my evening Adkhaar; specifically, this one:

‘Radeetu billahi Rabban wa bil-Islami deenan wa bi Muhammadin nabiyyan (I am content with Allah as my Lord, Islam as my religion and Muhammad as my Prophet),’ [about which the Prophet SallAllahu alayhi wa sallam said: “There is no Muslim – or no person, or slave (of Allah) – who says (this dua) in the morning and evening: but that he will have a promise from Allah to make him pleased on the Day of Resurrection” (Muslim)] and the anxiousness and worries started to fade. I could feel a mountain of trust, safety and gratitude filling my heart. I immediately felt grounded in my thoughts and beliefs. I realised that, Alhamdulillah, I am pleased with Allah, and that means I am pleased with what Allah (swt) has decreed for me. No matter what you are going through, no matter what your hardship is, no matter what your joy is, no matter your work or studies, no matter if you have family or if you will experience Ramadan alone – Allah (swt) is with you, knowing you, and seeing you through this. He wants and He has ordained for you to experience Ramadan in this particular way. Being pleased with the positionality you have and the situation you are in with the circumstances you have been given is a great pleasure. This sweet feeling is one of contentment and joy, and when you notice and accept that your Lord chose you to be right where you are now, you will see this as a gift perfect for you, Alhamdulilah.

How to attach myself to Allah during Ramadan?

Once I had realised that this was my Lord’s beautiful gift for me, I began to re-learn about the purpose of fasting and I wanted to attach my Ramadan to pleasing Allah (swt) alone and nothing else. Allah (swt) tells us that fasting was, “..prescribed to us so that we may attain taqwa” (Qur’an 2:183), and so really our attachment to Ramadan should be an attachment to building ‘taqwa’ : God-consciousness/Awareness/Cautiousness/Building a Shield/A Protection from Allah’s displeasure.

Allah (swt) makes it easy for us, by telling us how to do this. He tells us, what to do, and how to do it. He gives us clear direction. He is telling us what to do and how to get it. A complete guide, it really is a no-brainer. All we have to do is make the choice to follow it. In the Qur’an 2:21, Allah (swt) says,

“O mankind! Worship your Lord (Allah), Who created you and those who were before you so that you may become Al-Muttaqeen.”

Pursuing the Aakhirah (Hereafter) in your shoes requires a very personal, individual journey from yourself with Allah swt. This is a unique relationship that will only become beautiful once you nurture it. Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (saw) said,

“Allah (swt) says: ‘ When a slave of Mine draws near to Me a span, I draw near to him a cubit; and if he draws near to Me a cubit, I draw near to him a fathom. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running”‘

(Bukhari).

Allah (swt) is very close to those who come to Him with sincerity and devotion. Make your Ramadan about sincerely devoting to your Lord, wherever you are and however you can. Once this relationship is nurtured; you will start to feel the sweetness of faith and the ease shower over you as you embrace your unique journey of devotion to your Lord. Getting close means worshipping him, submitting to Him, pleasing Him; so that whatever you are busy with, you imagine you are dealing with Allah (swt) through your actions.

Allah (swt) is so Generous and has already extended an offer to us for unimaginable reward: The Prophet (saw) said:

Allah says: Fasting is for me I shall reward for it. And the fasting person has two moments of joy: When he breaks his fast and when he meets his Lord. (Muslim)

This is an intimate invitation to everyone, an invitation between you and Allah (swt); an invitation not just to seek the reward of fasting from Allah (swt), but also an invitation to yearn to meet Him.

For those that may be unable to fast, know that Allah (swt) decreed this for you too in the month of Ramadan, and know your abstaining is a form of ebaadah in the same way as fasting would be, since it comes from submission to His Order!

It is during this month the Prophet (saw) was visited by Jibril who revealed to him the beginnings of what would later be known as the Qur’an. We are told in the Qur’an that,

“Ramaḍan is the month in which the Qur’an was revealed as a guide for humanity with clear proofs of guidance and the decisive authority. So whoever is present this month, let them fast. But whoever is ill or on a journey, then ˹let them fast˺ an equal number of days ˹after Ramaḍan˺. Allah intends ease for you, not hardship, so that you may complete the prescribed period and proclaim the greatness of Allah for guiding you, and perhaps you will be grateful.”

( Quran 2:185)

In this ayah, Allah (swt) is addressing us regarding the sacred month of Ramadan being the birth of the Qur’an. He tells us that He wants ease for us, still guiding us to announce His Greatness and show gratitude towards Him. This verse is really calling us to attach ourselves to Allah (swt),to appreciate His majesty and Lordship, and to give thanks to Him for what He has given us. Even if we are not fasting in Ramadan, there is still so much we can have with our Lord.

Here are some things you can do to Attach yourself to Allah (swt) even if you are not fasting, not attending Tarawih prayers, looking after young children or unwell:

Qur’an

The Quran, the words of our Lord – Every letter has a reward from Allah. Alif is a letter, lam is a letter and meem is a letter. The recitation of every letter is rewarded. And the reward of any deed good deed performed in Ramadan is multiplied by 70. One of the ways we can attach ourselves to Allah, is by attaching ourselves to His book of guidance to us – this is really the biggest gift we have in building a relationship with our Creator.

We can build this relationship through recitation, reflection or even listening. Make the intention that you want to be guided through His words, you want to experience healing through them, that you want to receive Allah’s (swt) Pleasure and earn His great reward.

Remembrance of Allah (Dhikr)

Allah (swt) says in the Holy Qurān:

“Remember Me, and I will remember you.” (2:152)

“…And the remembrance of Allah is greater…” (29:45)

“Remember Allah much that you may be successful.” (8:45)

One of the companions (raḍiy Allāhu ‘anhu) asked: “O Messenger of Allah, the laws of Islam have become many for me, so tell me something which I can cling on to.” He (saw) replied:

“Always keep your tongue moist with the remembrance of Allah.” (Tirmidhī 3375)

Supplication to Allah (Du’a)

“And your Lord said: ‘Call upon Me; I will respond to you.’” (40:60)

The Messenger of Allah (saw) said: “There is nothing more honourable to Allah than du‘ā’.” He (saw) also said: “Allah is angry with those who do not make du‘ā’ to Him.” (Tirmidhī)

Du’a is one of the most beautiful things about our relationship with our Lord, that we can call upon Him whenever we want, whatever the circumstances, whatever the time or place. We can talk to Him and ask Him, cry to Him, plead to Him, whisper to Him such that it becomes an essential part of our daily lives, whereby we really invest and allocate time for this heart felt communication with our Lord.

Any good deed!

The Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “The most beloved of deeds to Allah are those that are most consistently, even if it is small.” (Bukhari)

Remember that any deed that is done consistently is beloved to Allah (swt), so whatever circumstance you find yourself in this Ramadan, remind yourself that you are pleased with the decree of Allah (swt) and you can enjoy the ease He has given you and through that you can still engage in something that will attach you and your heart to Allah (swt) in this blessed month.

Find something small that is pleasing to Allah (swt), something that you enjoy doing, and this deed can become a great habit that can live on after Ramadan, inshaaAllah. Doing this will mean that you are building yourself up in this month of blessings for the rest of the year and your life, and not just having a seasonal change that means you go back to ‘normal’ after the month is over.

Here are some reflective questions you can ask yourself to help you make the right choices in Ramadan:

What attitude am I choosing to have in the month of Ramadan?

How am I going to attach myself to Allah (swt) in this month given the situation that I am in?

How am I going to use Ramadan to build a great habit that is pleasing to Allah (swt)?

About the author

Shuhani Shohid (Umm Ayman) is a mother of two and a Teacher by profession. Born and bred in South Wales. She is a student of Sihaab (an Islamic development programme by Sabeel). She is an aspiring writer, an active member of the community and is co-founder of a faith and creative Young Girls self-development organisation called Roots. 

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