Lonely but not alone

By Romina Afghan

If you’re lonely, then you’re not alone.  How ironic.

There are scores of people feeling lonely, isolated and alone right now.  It seems that as the ways we can connect increase and multiply, the real connections we have actually seem to dilute,  and leave us more alone than ever.

Loneliness is the silent epidemic, the label no one wants to claim.
But if you’re lonely, you don’t have to be ashamed, to add insult on top of the injury of loneliness. It’s not your fault, you haven’t done anything wrong, and there isn’t something fundamentally wrong with you.

But, there are things you can do. 

If you’re lonely, reach out- to Allaah, your Rabb; your “Waliyy” -Protector, Guardian, Supporter, Friend. The One who is closer to you by His Knowledge than your own jugular vein in your neck- and then reach out to people.
If you’re lonely, remind yourself that you are loved. Loved by Allaah, and by those He sent in your life. Loved so much that He has prepared for you delights that no eye has ever seen and no mind can ever fully comprehend, and He Guides you and Nurtures you to perfection so you can reach it.

If you’re lonely, remind yourself that being a “stranger” ( one of the ghurabaa’, in Arabic) is rewarded with Tooba in Paradise, and one dip in Paradise is enough to make a person  forget any and every difficulty they ever faced in this world.

If you’re lonely, know that your loneliness has a purpose because your Lord did not create anything without a purpose; and once you have discovered what you need to learn and grow from this experience, the bitterness will dissipate and a sweetness that emanates from the heart will fill you. The light at the end of the proverbial tunnel will engulf you.

” Allaah is the Light of the heavens and the earth. The example of His light is like a niche within which is a lamp, the lamp is within glass, the glass as if it were a pearly [white] star lit from [the oil of] a blessed olive tree, neither of the east nor of the west, whose oil would almost glow even if untouched by fire. Light upon light. Allah guides to His light whom He wills. And Allah presents examples for the people, and Allah is Knowing of all things ” ( Qur’an Surah Noor 24:35).

The Light is there for anyone who feels the darkness of loneliness encroaching them. Reach out and light up your heart. Connect it to the source of light by praying, supplicating, asking, crying, pleading with your head upon the ground and knowing that every whisper and every tear will bring you closer and closer to the contentment and peace you seek. 

Then reach out to your friends and loved ones.  

If you’re lonely, your sisters don’t want to be happy knowing they are ok,  but their sister is not.

If you’re lonely, get in touch. People have an immense amount of love for you. People don’t know. They think you’re ok. They have been made and kept busy,  and think the reason that you’re not in touch is the same; that you are also busy. Yes, this loneliness is testing you, but in this test of life, none of us can pass alone. We are not required to. In fact, the opposite is true.   We are obligated to “enjoin one another to truth and to enjoin one another to patience” (Quraan, Surah al-Asr). 

If you’re lonely,  let others help. Their jannah may depend on it.

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Assalamu alaikum
I can relate to this and it’s how I’m feeling more than ever before in my life. May Allah bring love, righteous company and support into mine and all the lives of reverts suffering Ameen.

Me New
Me New

Salaam I am alone, and the loneliness does depress me. I don’t feel strong to know my allah is with me. I used to have friends, family, a partner but now I don’t and I can’t accept being on my own. I fear I will be alone forever, through wrong doings of my own and it scares me. I am trying to be patient and strong but sometimes I just feel I am wasting my life and I can’t appreciate anything. When in fact I have a lot to be grateful for. I’ve messed up my life and now I’m… Read more »


Please remind yourself that Allah Swt knows what you are going through now. Think about what you have (blessing) rather than the ‘lost’ and mistakes you made. Keep in mind these ‘mess’ are temporary issues here in this Dunya.. and we tend to be most ‘unmercy’ towards our own self. Allah Swt has promised to forgive us so long as we seek HIS forgiveness !! So please trust Him And what is most important now is try to amend and return to the straight path… even if you ‘failed’ again after trying, its Okay. Allah Swt already knew this is… Read more »


JazakAllahu khayher for posting this
Some days looks so dark like there is not a light at the end of the tunnel. This is a wonderful reminder.

Sachita Malla
Sachita Malla

When Allah is with us no need to worry but most of the time n situation we feel too much lonely n isolated . We all most all loose our physical n mental health condition. This is the time we need to keep ourselves with positive environment, we need to divert our mind in good deeds which make us closer to Allah. Ask more n more forgiveness, love n help of Allah. Because we can’t do anything unless Allah want n what is good for us. Just keep Sabar, read more 99 names of Allah, read and write Quran ,… Read more »

Seerat Fatma
Seerat Fatma

“if you’re lonely, let others help” I don’t get this part. I’m lonely because I literally have no one who could help me, except Allah of course.

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