Marriage Service

Solace In Marriage

“Marriage is half your Deen” is something revert women often hear immediately after embracing Islam, but without knowledge and the right support, many enter marriage without a clear understanding of what this means. All marriages require work and commitment, but for revert women the challenge can be even greater, leaving them vulnerable to unhappy, unfulfilling, and even abusive marriages.

In over 10 years, Solace has encountered a wide range of marital-related concerns in our work with revert women, and these issues usually stem from the following problems:

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    Upon taking their shahaadah, many revert women are immediately encouraged, pressured, or rushed to marry.

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    A large number of revert women do not have a Muslim father or Muslim family to act on their behalf throughout the Islamic marriage process.

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    Many revert women do not have the knowledge and right support upon coming into Islam to enter into a healthy marriage.

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    Upon taking their shahaadah, many revert women are immediately encouraged, pressured, or rushed to marry.

    This has led to:

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    Women falling prey to the negative behaviour of some men.

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    The appointment of a male guardian (wali) who has no time to vet the man as would normally be conducted by a Muslim father.

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    Confusion regarding the Islamic process of marriage.

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    A high divorce rate amongst revert women.

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    Unhappy and abusive marriages, and broken families and homes.

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    Revert women feeling lonely on their search for a husband, from lack of knowledge and support.

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    Having doubts about the religion and leaving Islam all together.

    The Solace In Marriage Solution

    The ‘Solace in Marriage’ solution is a service based on the Quran and Sunnah to provide a holistic service that meets the needs of all revert women looking to enter into marriage.

    It is designed to support revert women to find suitable partners and sustain healthy marriages, thereby further developing their eman and relationship with Allah. Through our holistic support system, we provide revert women and men wishing to marry them with the knowledge, tools and understanding required for a successful marriage.

    This service is:

    ✓ Holistic, and comprehensive
    ✓ Based on the Holy Quran and the Sunnah
    ✓ Based on current psychological and well-being research

    The service consists of key elements to educate, ensure compatibility, vet matches, promote wellbeing, and provide in-marriage support.

    Pre-Marriage Course

    An online module-based course delivered by experienced facilitators designed to equip participants with an in-depth understanding of:

    ✓ What marriage means in Islam
    ✓ Their rights and responsibilities
    ✓ The skills to reflect and recognise whether they are ready for marriage
    ✓ What it takes to sustain a healthy marriage

    Wali Panel

    This aspect of the service is designed to protect the interests of revert women, ensuring that they are safeguarded throughout the marriage process.

    The Wali Panel consists of the Panel Chair and 3 professionals (2 women, 1 man), with an in-depth understanding and experience of Quran & Sunnah, marriage, and psychological and wellbeing tools.

    The purpose of the Panel is to act in lieu of the revert woman’s father or family, as the majority of revert women do not have a wali.

    The Wali Panel will conduct individual initial meetings with revert women and their potential spouses to ensure that they are ready for marriage, facilitate/oversee meetings between them (up to 8 meetings) and undertake references and background checks.

    The Panel will provide valuable support and constructive feedback for both parties throughout the process. 

    Nikkah/Walima

    Following successful meetings, couples can either opt out of the service, or receive support from Solace to plan their Nikkah and Walima.* 

    The Solace Team, including the Wali Panel, will work with participants to prepare for and host a Nikkah and Walima. Vitally, this includes holding information sessions with the revert woman’s (and man’s as applicable) non-Muslim friends and family to ensure that they understand what Islamic marriage entails and feel involved in the process.

    * Couples that require financial assistance can apply for it at this stage

    In-Marriage Support

    Designed to empower couples to improve, repair and rebuild their marriage, this support is provided by the Wali Panel to those revert women accessing 1:1 emotional support through Solace. This will include the following:

    ✓ Mediation
    ✓ Tools for effective communication
    ✓ Tools for maintaining romance and intimacy
    ✓ Techniques to de-escalate conflict
    ✓ Techniques for repair and recovery in order to develop and sustain a healthy and resilient marriage
    ✓ Access to marriage counselling, as appropriate.

    Who is this for?

    If you are interested in marriage:

    • Revert* women who are single, divorced or widowed can access:

    ✓ Pre-Marriage Course

    ✓ Wali Panel **

    ✓ Nikkah/Walima Support**

    • Muslim men, born into the islamic faith or revert, and interested in marrying a revert woman can access:

    ✓ Pre-Marriage Course

    If you are married:

    • ***Revert women currently receiving 1:1 emotional support through Solace can access In-Marriage Support.

    *’Revert’ refers to a convert to islam from another religion.

    **To access this support you must be a UK resident.

    ***This support is available to both UK and non-UK residents.

    How Do I Apply

    We are currently not taking applications.

    If you’d like to get notified when applications open, submit the form below.

    Frequently asked questions

    Can I attend just the pre-marriage course?

    Yes, you have the option to just attend the pre-marriage course and opt out of the service at the end.

    What if I already have a person in mind?

    Revert women can join the service with a potential spouse in mind.

    Will you offer this service for polygamous marriages?

    To be notified when the service is expanded to accommodate polygamy, click here.

    I’m not qualified, can I still join the course?

    Let us know you’re interested by completing this form.

    How can I get notified about the next round?

    If you can’t join this round, you can get notified about the next round by completing this form.

    I want to apply to the service but I don’t live in the UK.

    The Marriage Service is for UK citizens and residents in the UK. Unfortunately, this service is not yet expanded to other locations.

    Are the modules for the pre-marriage course delivered remotely or in person?

    The pre-marriage course is entirely online.

    Is the course just for reverts?

    The course is for revert women, but brothers applying can be reverts or born Muslims.

    To what extent do you vet the person?

    Participants are assessed for suitability throughout the process, via a variety of means, including character references, meetings with the Wali Panel and questionnaires. 

    If someone proposes to me, can I give them your number as a wali after signing up?

    If a revert woman has a potential match/proposal, she can apply for the service and access support from the Wali Panel.

    Is there an age limit?

    No age limit

    Can you join as a revert if you have a wali?

    Yes, you can join, the Wali Panel stage and support would still apply.

    Can non-reverts apply?

    This is something we are hoping to do in the future. Any non-revert sisters interested can add their names to the waiting list.

    Last updated in December 2023

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